A month ago I asked you guys what kind of posts you wanted to see from me and most people asked me to write more personal stories about things going on in my life. Every time I thought about what I wanted to share with you I kept coming back to my fear of failure. So that’s exactly what I’m gonna be talking to you about. Not because I’ve overcome it but because it is something I am continually being confronted with and learning to overcome.
I think one of the first steps in learning to overcome this fear is acknowledging why this is a fear. There are so many reasons why this may be a fear for you but for me there are three main reasons why…
1. I think everyone wants to be told when they are doing something good and I am no exception. I want approval. I want to be told that I have skills. I want to be told that I am loved, that I do matter and that people do care about me.
2. This kind of goes hand in hand with my first point which is I am prideful. I want people to acknowledge that I am right when I am but also there have been times when I have been wrong and know I’m wrong yet I still try and justify myself simply because of my pride.
3. If you know me well then you will know that there are certain things that I like done a particular way. I’m a perfectionist and can certainly be a little OCD. This can be a good thing at times as I often give 100% in trying to do things to the best of my ability but at other times this can be a stumbling block.
All of these things can be good at times but they can also be bad, very bad. These things cause me to overthink everything that I have or am thinking of doing at times, ultimately leading me to be scared of FAILING!
Learning to let things go, know that I am loved, even if it’s just by my King, and learning that I don’t always have to be right is exactly how I’m learning to overcome this fear. It is and will continue to be a long process but I am getting better at overcoming this fear.
What are some of your fears and how are you learning to overcome them?